A car has just blatantly cut you off and you are forced slam on the breaks. How do you react? Do you honk the horn? Swear? Shake your fist? It’s safe to assume that you are probably irritated. Anger is completely normal and a typical human emotion. While anger can be considered healthy, it can also spiral out of control into fits of rage. This is far from healthy and could affect several aspects of your life. But how does one deal with anger?
Here are some crucial tips:
Don’t Bottle It Up: The admission of anger is a very important step. Otherwise, the bottle could crack and all of those suppressed angry moments could leak out and snowball out of control.
Exercise: This is perhaps the best outlet to relieve any feelings of anger. Something as simple as a walk could put your mind and body at ease.
Recognize Solutions: Go to the source of what causes your anger and attempt to find common solutions. Does the traffic on the way to work drive you mad? Allow yourself extra travel time in the morning or choose an alternate route.
Laugh: Learn to laugh instead of lash. It’s often the most trivial and silly things that make us angry.
Do Not Overreact: Take a step back and ask yourself, “Is this situation really as bad as I am making it out to be?”
Ask a Professional: Learning to control your anger is an ongoing challenge. If it seems out of control, perhaps seeking the help of a professional would be an ideal avenue to venture down. Anger management classes and counseling is surprisingly inexpensive and extremely beneficial.
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Whether we would like to admit it or not, we can all be a tad judgemental. Perhaps we are simply creatures of habit and continue to unknowingly mimic previous actions and thought patterns. Being judgemental does not make you a bad person, but it does show evidence that you may lack the art of acceptance and understanding.
Here is something that I was taught at a very young age.
“If you judge others, prepare to be judged yourself.” It’s a simple, self explanatory and effective statement. I have carried those words through every path I have crossed in life.
Walt Whitman once said, “Be Curious. Not Judgemental.” To dig a little deeper into this quote, Walt is implying that it’s okay to question things or be curious, but don’t be closed minded or judgemental.
You know that grumpy old woman down the hall who never smiles? Perhaps she just lost her husband. Or that neighbor who walks with a limp? Perhaps he just had a hip replacement. It’s easy to judge before you know their situation.
The art of acceptance and understanding is quite simple. Put yourself in another person’s shoes, listen, and try to accept their situation. No, you don’t have to love every person that you encounter or constantly pretend to be someone’s best friend. It’s simply about opening your mind and heart and avoiding that one habit that seems all too natural. We breathe the same air; we take the same steps and our hearts all beat. I firmly believe that we have just one shot at this life, so let’s try our very best to live the remainder of it “judgement free.”
Do the chocolates, flowers or romantic dinners really matter on Feb 14th? No. It’s a thoughtful gesture, but what really matters is expressing your love and appreciation to the most important individuals in your life rather than celebrating the bells and whistles. Perhaps you don’t have a significant other, well express those feelings towards your closest friends and family.
Sure, Valentine’s Day is just another corporate holiday meant to make an extra dollar off of us, but the least you can do is phone, text, email or visit those who have truly made an impact in your life and simply say, “I love you.” You just never know when it might be your last opportunity to say those 3 little words.
And by the way, you don’t have to wait until Valentine’s Day to share those loving thoughts. These power messages tend to mean a great deal more when they are delivered unexpectedly.
You just received another bill in the mail, you’re starting to feel under the weather, the car isn’t running properly and you are under constant pressure at work. Does this sound familiar? In one form or another, stress tends to affect us all. Is there a way to de-stress? Yes! Here are my personal tips to the rescue!
Laugh – A little laugher may not solve your problems, but it will certainly distract you from them. Perhaps a funny movie or YouTube video will do the trick.
Go For A Walk – The combination of exercise and fresh air is one of the most effective forms of de-stressing. Speaking of which…
Get Some Sunlight – I’m talking about natural sunlight, not the artificial type. It’s a common fact that serotonin levels are increased in the presence of the sun. These levels are responsible for mood elevation. Simply put, a little Vitamin D could easily boost your spirits.
Breathe – Taking deep breaths can be an instant stress reliever. I tend to practice these from a laying position.
Listen To Music – Listening to music tends to have a very relaxing effect on our mind and body. Don’t be afraid to sing along to your favourite song either as it can also release tension.
The next time you are stressed out, which could be at this very moment, try out these tips out and let me know if they worked for you!